Beam me up, Scotty

Beam me up, Scotty. 

I'm pretty sure, from the work I do with adults and with babies -- yeah, they tell me they don't want to be here  -- that most of us felt this when we arrived on this planet with our first experience and encounters being very brutal.

Image from film -- father's story about how he moved his hands in and caught his baby after doctor told him he was not allowed to massage his own wife's perineum. He wouldn't let go of baby when doctor wanted father to cut the cord. "I thought it was a trick to make me let go of the baby!"

Check out the doctor -- wouldn't he seem like a mean, cruel alien to a vulnerable new being who is designed for connection and love? Gowns, gloves, head caps, and plastic shield-mask on to protect himself from the mother's germs. Doesn't he look a little alien? Probing nose and mouth of new being? When it is known to do no good, but to cause emotional and physical harm, and to disrupt breastfeeding. Cuz, babies remember it!! Something coming into their face, causing fear and pain that hurt their mouth and throat and interfered with breathing and swallowing. DUH!

Yesterday on my radio show, Thought Crime Radio: Voices for Human Rights of Babies (And by babies, I mean YOU!) we really went "out there" and compared alien abduction reports to obstetrical abuse. 

This site, UFO abductions, describes the typical alien abduction experience.  Where this description uses Abduction or Alien I interchanged a word for human birth. Hee, hee. But, actually, it is scary. Eery scary.

Straight Talk About UFO Abductions

A Typical Abduction Event

http://www.ufoabduction.com/straighttalk.htm

(Births) Abductions are complex series of events and procedures directed by the (medical caregiver) abductors to passive or controlled (women) abductees. In a typical or common (birth)abductions, humans are taken out of their normal environment by (their loved ones) aliens. The people are rendered passive and cannot resist. They are taken aboard a (hospital) UFO, their clothes are removed and they are made to lie on a table. A series of physical, mental, and productive procedures are then administered to the subjects. People's physical bodies are probed and examined. (The baby is removed from the woman). Sperm is taken, eggs are harvested.

The (medical caregivers) aliens perform staring procedures during which they gaze into (baby’s) abductees' eyes at at distance of only an inch or two. These "mindscan" procedures appear to be neurological manipulations which give the (medical caregivers) aliens the ability to "enter into" peoples' minds.

After the table procedures, (women) abductees report that they are sometimes taken into other rooms where they are required to have skin on skin contact with unusual looking babies. (women are not really sure which baby is theirs). (Women) Abductees say that these babies seem to be crosses between humans and aliens. They call them "hybrids."

Abductees also see hybrid toddlers, older youth, adolescents, and adults.

Sometimes abductees report that they are required to perform tasks, that they are "tested" in some way. They say that machines are brought in to examine them. They sometimes are required to have a form of sexual intercourse with other humans, and sometimes with adolescent and adult hybrids. They are returned to their normal environment and within seconds, they forget what has just happened to them.

What do you think!? Wow, we had some callers!! Whew.

My question isn't really do aliens exist and are abduction stories true?  Personally, I feel that if humans on this planet are the highest beings in our Universe, we are F'd!! My question is, "How can society not wonder about the experience of the baby and do everything possible to protect the mama-baby connection so humans feel safe, nurtured, connected ... rather than fearful, in pain, and lost/abandoned?"

Think about it, feel about it ... how could the baby who depended on the mother for everything, who knew nothing but her, want anything else?

Wake up and see the truth about child abuse

Today, I got an email message from  Child Abuse Prevention project sponored by Pepsi Corporation. Sorry, you have to leave this page to view it. Stay here and read this first and then go view it. It is one example of the propagation of propaganda and lies that keeps us entrenched in very wrong thinking and action. THINK about what we are allowing to be promoted day in and day out with our complicity and our purchases and our silence.

It is a contest entry in their project that says:

Security blankets filled with parenting info for new parents in MT!

I know the young mom is well-intended. I never doubt that. But honestly, and being kind as possible, she is a Sheeple.  We all are until we are not. Until we wake up and see the lies.

I just get very, uhm, upset and angry about the MISinformation, and I am, uhm, pretty much outraged at the lack of truth and the lack of real intervention into stopping the real abuse:  the obstetric abuse of human babies in their first few minutes. Preserving mama-baby relationship is only way to prevent child abuse and the majority of whatever else ails us in this country.

A few years ago I had this card done. It's easy to hand out and leave places. It's big, 4x 6 and colorful. Let me know if you'd like some to hand out. You can buy them from Vista Prints.


So, today, the constant bombardment of misinformation from the media pipeline just got to me. It does every day.  Anything about Child Abuse Prevention, my life long interest since kindergarten when I took a girl home with me from school to live at my house when she said she was being abused, to my twenty-eight years as professional person as a counselor in many settings to finally working for two state systems, always "fighting the systems" to make them more what woman and child truly need.

When I was introduced to birth trauma via infant massage training and the Association of Pre and Perinatal Psychology and Health the real child abuse prevention became crystal clear and so simple.  So, I thought. Twelve years, a website and two blogs, and a film later, I am just absolutely dismayed that our culture continues to promote all sort of programs and projects purported to end the disorders, dysfunctions, and diseases that ORIGINATE in the meddling of birth, in the separation of the mama-baby, and in the abuse of the newborn baby.  The research is clear and always has been from Harry Harlow, PhD in 50-70's, Jame Prescott, PhD (70's to now), and now Darcia Narvaez, Ph.D - medical birth is traumatizing to the mama-baby, both together and as individuals. I'm been focusing on fathers are harmed. Our survival as a species, as humane humans, depends upon us "getting this" - that birth is a powerful, defining moment for the baby, the mother, the father. We LIVE the consequences of disruption and violence and violation of the baby and mother and father every day and it is the myriad of social, spiritual, psychological, emotional, and physical dysfunctions, disorders, and diseases we try to fix with money, and frankly, more wrong intervention and drugs, that is killing humanity.

Today, this ad in my gmail box flipped my switch.  I posted on Facebook and share it here, in it's unedited rawness, my response to "Security blankets filled with parenting information".  It is the "INFORMATION" part that really trips my trigger, but yeah, in a "security blanket".... 

It's already "one of those days" (existential angst about what is done to humans in the first moments and hours of life under the guise of science and help) and this ... when is society going to see the mis-treatment of the newborn as child abuse. You wanna "prevent child abuse"?!? HUH!?!? STOP SEPARATING MAMA-BABY and stop ABUSING NEWBORNS with big, fat lies. It is CHILD ABUSE to separate the mama-baby, to separate the baby-placenta, and it's CHILD ABUSE to scrub, rub, poke, prod, shoot, suction, bulb, put hat on, and yes, even wrap the baby in the security blanket. Step away, I just need to step away. NO, you need to step away. Step away from the baby. Right now, STEP. AWAY. FROM. THE. BABY-MAMA. She can friggin' figure it out on her own. THAT is what prevents child abuse. NO, I am not done yet.

I continue in the comments:

Lordess of Mercy, folks, a WOMAN is a divine creation of nature. She can conceive, build, sustain - CREATE another human being in her body, and then grow and sustain it with her body/milk ... with NO OUTSIDE, MEDICAL intervention. She can g...ive birth to that same being and she can KNOW what to do .. if you stop indoctrinating women with failure, SHE KNOWS WHAT TO DO AT BIRTH ... even if she fumbles at bit, that is HER LEARNING how, it HER CONNECTING her baby so that she KNOWs, so that she is BONDED to that baby, and that, my friends, IS THE GREATEST CHILD PREVENTION ON THE PLANET. And, it means leave your F'in' hands off her and his baby (daddy).

and,

And, you know what else? Parenting info? Parenting tips tucked in the security blanket? Tools of indoctrination ... promoting vaccines, coupons for formula, warnings about co-sleeping, lies about SIDS, and nothing about carrying baby for ni...ne months that science shows is what the HUMAN BRAIN needs, but instead the lies preparing for the ongoing medical domination over them, so they'll shoot them full of chemicals and send them off to public school?  

and,

How about MOTHERING and FATHERING information. TWO different forms of caring for children. STOP diluting MOTHERING and FATHERING, the needs of human beings, into the neutral, manipulated label of PARENTING that diminishes the full spectrum of parenting .... and yeah, two women and two men can do it ... mothering and fathering. 

and,

And, here's a tip ... if a big billion dollar corporation is funding it, the campaign, or whatever, like Pepsi here, which is basically poison, RUN. Run fast in the opposite direction. Don't be lured into their webs of deceit. Don't support it. Big corporations promoting the lies, and creating exactly what they purport to be "fighting" or ending. Grrrrrrrrrrrr.
Still not done .... I will not be done til my last breath, and I will not be done until this culture sees the impact of what has been done to nearly every human being for generations .... NEWBORN ABUSE ... when the sentience of the human newborn is ignored and educated, professional, licensed medical people are allowed to separate mama-baby and abuse newborns, right in front of the disempowered daddy.

Time to wake up, folks. Time to see the pain and suffering we experience our whole lives if from the earliest experiences of being violated and separated .... from the mother, from the father, from love and connection. We have to do our inner work to heal and to engage in action to end this child abuse. I bet my life on it, that the abuses, the dysfunctions, the disorders, and diseases for which we have billions of dollars for "treatment" will not exist if we PROTECT THE MAMA-BABY in the most powerful, defining moment of their relationship together.

The back of my card:

Who Does Birth Belong To?

Women? Doctors? Midwives? Fathers? the Baby?

We all own birth. We must, as adults, come to resolution regarding our own birth as a baby and the birthing of our babies as women. Men also need to come to self-resolution about his own experience as a birthing baby and as as father when his baby is born.  Birth is the baby's experience of coming into being. It is the baby's birth and the mother's experience of giving birth. It is a profound experience for both of them, and for the father.

Birth is the baby's transition into this world and into physiological independence. The baby is powerless to make choices and depends upon the mother, father, and caregiver to know that she or is a sentient, real, feeling, experiencing being. Therefore, the baby must be treated with respect when we know that everything happening to the baby is being recorded in his or her body, mind, and soul.  Is it a coincidence that this body-mind-soul perspective is growing in the US with people who seek to be who they are meant to be on this planet? 

The baby -- you and me, our children, and everyone we know -- experienced his or her birth. Most were violent and painful, and involved separation, and boy's genitals were mutilated.  The baby deserves to be the focus of birth. As a vulnerable human being who is powerless, voiceless and totally dependent upon the parents and the caregivers (via social and cultural standards of care) deserves to be treated as the one who is most impacted, the one who will live with the impact of their birth throughout life. That baby, every one of us, throughout our life has to live with the choices of the adults. We have to own our birth and our life. That's the deal.  But modern psychology and medicine are either really dumb or they lie to us, have deceived and brainwashed culture in a very nasty game. We don't play with a full deck in this game if we ignore what happened to us at birth as baby being born. When we embrace our birth - the violation, the love, the fear, the bliss - the choices that others made for us, then we realize the need to protect the baby's experience during birth.

When birth focuses only on the woman, it leaves out the baby whose birth it is, and the man who is being a father.  I believe it is the men who need to rise up to create this change. This is a plan I did in 2004 for a collective perspective for people to come together to organize change. 

© May, 2004  Janel Martin-Miranda, MA, LPC

MOMS    
for America’s

B A B I E S

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MOMS for America’s Babies
is a partnership of citizens who purpose is  legislating improvement of  the
maternal safety, care and treatment of women and their babes
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Creating partnerships for change at all levels:  
The healthy, safe birth of every baby in American depends upon consumers of maternity care, maternal health care providers, policy makers, legislators, and concerned citizens coming together.

Supporting prenatal development through infancy:
Healthy, functional, non-violent, drug-free American children and citizenry depends upon healthy, gentle conception, gestation, labor, birth, and infancy.

Moms are Organizing Maternity Safety for America’s Babies
      Moms Owning Maternal Safety
        Men Ordering Maternal Safety
Medicine Optimizing Maternal Safety
Midwifes Offering Maternal Safety

Moms for America’s Babies Partners:

Moms Owning Maternal Safety
Women claim their right, their choice, and their responsibility for their body and their
baby’s birth from pre-conception through infancy.

Men Ordering Maternal Safety
Men are the rightful protectors of their partner and child, and they demand to be
supporter and protector of their partner’s decisions in birthing their baby.

Medicine Optimizing Maternal Safety
Doctors are no longer held disproportionately responsible for the outcomes of birth,
Doctors are able to focus on providing maternity care that is evidenced-based, and
do not control women’s choice over her body and her baby’s birth.

Midwifes Offering Maternal Safety
Midwives are the bridge between natural, physiological ways and new technology,
and between women and medicine; and they are the protector of women’s bodies
and the physiological process of natural birth, and attend birth of healthy women
and babies.

My father passed away

My father, Rev. Charles A. Martin passed away on Monday, February 21, 2011 about 6 pm.  I was blessed to "be with" him in his journey from his earthly life to his new life since he was admitted to the VA medical center on February 7th. I was with him during his eight day stay in the VA and the last three days of his life in a nursing facility.

My daughter stopped by the hospital the night of her court-warming dance so we could see her dressed up. We had learned that day that he had less than two weeks to live but I waited until the next day to tell her.

Being with dad is the reason I relocated to MO: to be with my parents in their last years and days.  Being with my dad during his transition was one of the most profound experiences of my life. I am very blessed to be with him in the most spiritual, intimate part of living - his dying, passing from this life to a new life, as he was with me in my birthing.  Through his courage, faith, and vulnerability, I experienced some of the greatest fathering of my life.

My sister and I were planning his celebration of his life/family gathering for Saturday, February 26 when dad and I learned on February 12th that he had less than 2 weeks to live without dialysis.  He was in so much pain from another infliction that was incurable that he chose to die with grace and not do dialysis. He had been ready for a long time to go be with Jesus and chose not to live a stressful, poor quality life extending him a few months.  As it turns out the 26th truly was his day of our family celebration of his life, his funeral. Another one will be in his/my hometown in Iowa on March 4.

I am keeping my goal of completing the film by my dad's birthday, May 21st and launching it for Father's Day.  I hope to premier it in Los Angeles on June 15th and plan to do the Canadian premiere in Montreal on June 20th. It will be even more important to me now to honor my father on Father's Day as this is really is his story.

Looking through my mom's amazing geneology books, I found this newspaper clipping.  No wonder I'm doing this film.

My dad was present at my birth in 1956 and at my five siblings' births, from 1949 to 1970.  Long before women were fighting to have their husbands with them my dad was there. His last child was born before it was a popular idea and a fight in the 70's.  My father was one of the first men to be impacted by witnessing the violence and trauma inflicted upon his wife and baby and having no way to stop it, and no place and no one with whom to process it.  My early primal self, my inner baby, my preverbal self who experienced his presence, his pain, our pain, our separation and union at my birth has known this.  I've really just begin to understand myself, my dad, and our family in the making of this film.  I wish we'd had longer, of course. I had just gotten to know an aspect of him I'll forever cherish. 

For the first year and a half of the filmmaking my dad worried about me driving around the country, back and forth, and just wanted me to get a real job!  I am glad my dad recently got to see the intro and the closing of the film, and to see himself in it.  He was pretty proud of it,  and me, and he did understand the overall multiple focuses of the film, and the magnitude of the film, and he appreciated my accomplishment.  I have a strong faith in the spiritual world and with our connections to all things and beings, here and there.  I know he's still guiding me and telling his story ... the story of so many men in our culture.

The solution is ...

"The Other Side of the Glass" covers a broad spectrum ... from the Soul and consciousness, to some primal brain development, to father's stories of their experiences, to how the medical system is a war machine, and how fathers are disempowered by their own birth which most likely included circumcision.

I've read some comments that the film doesn't tell people/men/fathers what they can do. Yes, it does:

1) Don't go the hospital.

2) We Can Be Much Kinder and Do No Harm give the information about suctioning and cord clamping and give a website where you can copy a form by George M. Morley, MD, OB to give to your doctor saying "I do not give consent to cut the cord, to suction." But they don't honor birth plans and this is going to create another battle between mothers and doctors, midwives and doctors.

3) Rise up and demand reform of the system.

The problem is that hospital birth is a battle zone, and how do we legislate compassion, kindness and respect for the human newborn and the mama-baby dyad and mama-baby-daddy unity. We can't. We have to undergo a massive reform from the inside out. The point of the film is not just to give men the info they need. It's out there. Men know it; although I do share it. The point is that MEN ARE POWERLESS to protect their babies and partner in the hospital setting. IF you are lucky, you will have ONE medical staff member (out of 2-30 people) who respects birth as sacred event in your life, respects YOU and your baby and partner (as souls) and honors birth as THE most important brain development, foundation-building experience of your baby's life. You might count yourself a recipient of a true MIRACLE if you experience a COMPLETE team of medical staff members who KNOW THE SCIENCE, the REAL SCIENCE of physiology of birth and imprinting and pre and perinatal psychology, AND who have the INTENTION and AGENDA to create the most peaceful, empowering birth with the science -based GOAL of PRESERVING THE MAMA-BABY.

That is one of a few hypotheses put forward by my film ... we can create a healthy, happy, and harmonious humanity by keeping mother and baby intact. I suggest that the medical system is a conscious and unconscious system of disconnecting human beings from their mothers in order to yield power over them for their lifetime. Yes, I do believe SOME of them KNOW what they are doing. Others are just inflicting upon human newborns what happened to them and what they are indoctrinated to do. Preserve the system first; people, if it works out. When mother and baby are separated at THE TIME nature designed profound attachment and exquisite transitioning from the placenta to the breast, the mother will not believe in her own power as woman and mother; and, the baby's nervous system is imprinted with pain, separation, and fear and being saved by the system. All of it these days, since women and men won the right of the father's to be PRESENT and not on the other side of the glass. But he is still made impotent to protect his loved one. Men can not stop this during the birth of their baby WITHOUT being in a warrior, battling, warring mindset. Most often, he is going to lose the battle. Men feel like failures when they lose the battle. It's a very efficient intervention, medicalized birth is.

Baby girls and baby boys are being born in this environment of chaos, disempowerment, and battling. Then the boy is circumcised, and I propose, that perhaps this is why fathers freeze when strangers enter the room and dictate the most smallest of demands on what he can and can't do. It's likely why men stand powerless, emotionally frozen, hands over crotch while their partner and wife are abused and mutilated. Perhaps, this is why we have warrior mentality in our culture in everything we do -- being born into a environment of chaos, distrust, pain, and violence. I think so ... America "wars on" everything. From where does this mentality in America come? The war on poverty, hunger, drugs, crime, child abuse, war, cancer, even teen pregnancy and now texting. When America defines a "problem" it goes into battle to resolve it.

Fathers, whether circumcised or intact, but especially circ'd men, will NOT be able to protect their baby and partner in hospital setting. I propose that this distrust, fear, feeling of lack, and need to fight for everything is created in the early brain in the experience of leaving the womb. Rather coming naturally, drug free to our mother's arms and breast, in the safety of the father, we (society) are induced, drugged, and greeted by masked strangers with rough towels, rubber gadgets, and plastic tubes. We are taken to cubicles, bright lights, and further violated. And, that's a good birth that was vaginal. Cesarean birth is an additional experience of terror, confusion, and pain for the human brain designed for a totally different experience.

Today when couples are preparing for the safe, loving, empowering birth in the hospital they must prepare to battle, to fight for this. In 2011 we have to fight for what we have always known, fight against medical disruption -- a very recent development (100 years.) Many couples and baby lose the battle ... they do EVERYTHING right and still, they end up with a surgical birth, separation of baby prematurely from mother (cord cutting), and harsh treatment of the baby. They have to FIGHT to not have IV lines, to not be in bed, to be drug-free and not augmented and rushed on an artificial UN-scientific time table. They have to FIGHT to keep their baby IN THEIR ARMS, with no bulbing, immediate cord clamping, and suctioning, all done "in case" of the extremely rare case of meconium aspiration. ALL of these are shown to be damaging to the baby and yet they continue to do it. EVEN if it is necessary they can be expected to do so respectfully, gently, and in the mother's or father's arms. A mother and father have to prepare to fight to not have ointment, shots, measuring, and bathing - to simply keep the baby in their arms. The hospital environment PROMOTES separation of the human newborn from the mother, shown in the research for fifty years to be severely detrimental to the human being.

Everything developed to help empower women in their births ... birth plans, Doulas, fathers, Bradley method, hypnobabies, water ... eventually is met with oppositional force - the medical system and it's Faces ... the people ... educated, licensed, and state-sanctioned caregivers who do not have to follow the real science. There is no standard of care so every hospital in any city will have it's own policies, NOT based on science but history of litigation. In that hospital the doctor has his own preferences and on every shift the nurse has hers. They will all say what they do is "scientific". It is not. They are allowed to misuse science to increase their efforts to maintain the system's status quo. They say, "We are in charge." And, so that over time these effective things become less effective. THEN, the hospital staff and researchers (paid by Big Pharm companies) says, "Seee, it doesn't work". I believe the growing cesarean rate is a DIRECT result of the increasing battle between the hospital and the natural, physiological model of birth known as midwifery. It is about money and control.



I have a piece in the film where Marilyn Milos, RN and a few others made that point of the impact of men at HIS birth, being circumcised makes a man powerless at his child's birth. I make the point that MEN need to be the ones to rise up and change the system. And, here is ONE of the points of the film: Men can't protect their child IN the moment of giving birth ... and though that's where the movement has been going, where people thought this film was going, I am proposing that preparing to go to battle to have a natural, normal, gentle, intervention and drug free birth, and being respected in an environment that is controlled by a mentality that does not want that IS part of the development of the "war mindset".

The profoundly sad truth is that men can't stop what happens to their partner once they enter the hospital. Many are staying out of the hospital, and sometimes that is more dangerous, but most of the time it is not. But the point is, their choices are trampled on by laws that allow hospitals and doctors the power .. to slice open women without true need and then deny her access to a vaginal birth later based on money and litigation reasons. A birthing couples choices are trampled by the hospital system's ability to misuse science, such as forcing cesarean and circumcision, all upheld by powerful interests with monetary goals, not the well being of human BABIES. That would include ME and YOU and YOUR babies. WE are all victims of this medical mindset of controlling nature -- for over one hundred years. MEDICINE is the alternative, not nature. Circumcision is a big one.

Men, circumcised and non circumcised men, can rise up (no pun intended, just the right word) to change the system ... NOT when they are experiencing the birth of their baby. This is how men will protect their partner and babies, and protect humanity ... the empathy and connection needed to have the world we all say we want ... but alludes humans. It is a journey to seeing one's own birth experience as the foundational time for the life they are living now. It's a journey to embrace the process in a healing way. One of the ways we do that, as Marilyn Milos and father, Mike Hagan tell us ... to create the change, stop the harming. Men will protect their baby and future babies by demanding change of the medical model of obstetric care that harms our women, babies and men.

I am sad to say that for the father's facing going to the hospital today and this year, he is not going to be able to protect his baby. While I do share the science so that he can say, as DOCTORS advise him, "I do not give my consent for you to xyz", I also implore YOU to rise up and change the system for others. Men can be educated to know what the science it ... but when they are on the battle ground they are not in control. Men, take a friend with you; go with a friend to support him during birth but know until we stop the dynamic of the hospital environment in charge of birth, allowed to misuse science for their agenda, litigation avoidance and time management fathers, MEN, will be at the mercy of the hospital staff. Preparing to go there to have a sacred, natural, empowered, or just plain SAFE birth like men are led to believe, is a little like preparing to go to Kabul and open up a sweet little shop selling cookies and tea. Once one truly sees the extraordinary development of the brain, body, and being of the laboring, birthing, newborn baby and how "normal" medicalized birth represents torture to the newborn, this statement will not seem absurd. I do not say it lightly, with little regard for our troops. My son, an Army Lt deployed to both Iraq and Afghanistan is one of my greatest teachers in understanding this concept that many, many fathers began voicing to me.

It's time for the "battle" to be outside the hospital - in the legal and judicial system - and led by the men/fathers, defined by the men/fathers. DURING the labor and birth of his child a man is UNABLE TO PROTECT HIMSELF and his family. We need to create a system, a social expectation that medical caregivers BE THE ONES to change what THEY DO TO BABIES, women and men. Men either before or after they've experienced it need to rise up and create a new system. DEMAND legal changes be made that ensure that the baby is treated kindly, with respect, and that the mother-baby connection is preserved and protected. He will heal himself in the process and he will heal his baby and partner .. whatever happened to him and his family.


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