The Other Side of the Glass: A birth film for and about men
Father's Day 2013 digital release
buy it here at The Other Side of the Glass.com
How to feel powerful and connected again in your relationship -- feelings that may have taken a hit when your baby was born.
--Carrie Hankins, doula
Fathers are traumatized by witnessing what happened to - and not being able to protect - their birthing partner and baby. Our culture does not acknowledge men as being impacted by the disempowering experience of modern birth. Fathers leave the hospital - in shock - with a wounded wife and baby, and so:
- FATHERS struggle to know how to support their partner (and crying baby) processing her pain and disappointment from the baby's birth.
- FATHERS have no place to share their story of their pain and loss and joy, and their guilt and shame at not "being the protector."
- FATHERS go back to work, they help at home and with baby at night, and they are exhausted.
- FATHERS feel hurt by the loss of time and attention from partner while watching the mom's intimacy with the baby.
- FATHERS sadly silently struggle with the conflicting, scary feelings towards their baby and fatherhood.
- FATHERS grieve and are angry, and then feel guilty about their behavior around their need for and the loss of sexual intimacy.
The Other Side of the Glass: A birth film for and about men, available now at www.theothersideoftheglass
Through voices of men around the country, Janel Mirendah, attachment therapist and "baby whisperer," has created a love story of a film that powerfully and gently opens our hearts and eyes to see how men experience the truly most profound moment in their lives - becoming a father. A virtually unknown need of men at birth emerges as men share their pain and loss: The moment a man sees his baby emerge from his partner should be his moment of awe, and this human need is totally ignored and violated in modern birth. And, it deeply impacts his life as a man, father, and partner.
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In her private practice, Janel facilitates the Father First (c) to safely and gently share his story of becoming father, in order for him to reclaim his rightful place and role in his family. When the father is heard and acknowledged, and when he is ready, Janel supports the father as she brings the mama-baby and dad together - to experience their Moment of Awe that they missed. (Chapter 2 of the film).
This process, grounded in recent scientific understanding of the nervous system and imprinting, follows the needs of their baby. Having their family Moment of Awe brings the family into a new experience of harmony and creates the foundation to create a new peaceful dynamic in their family.
The Other Side of the Glass: A birth film for and about men
Digital release available at this special price now -
www.theothersideoftheglass .com.Once this limited release is over, Part 1 (Chapters 1-6) and upcoming Part 2 of the film will be available through a membership portal, where fathers (and others, such as grandmothers and doulas who also witnessed violence at birth) can safely and confidentially have access to work with Janel, and begin to process their experience, and lead in healing his family.
"To call it a film or even a documentary does not really represent the scope of your offering. It is more a manifesto on the origins of, and influences on, parenting and family life from the very beginning.
In a way it is a stand alone early parenting course. It is the most inclusive and balanced mother/father/baby film I have seen. This is rare because few actually get the true significance and importance of father's influence on the baby's gestation, birth and breastfeeding experience, as well as on the mother."
- Patrick Houser, Fathers-to-be (UK)
"To call it a film or even a documentary does not really represent the scope of your offering. It is more a manifesto on the origins of, and influences on, parenting and family life from the very beginning.
In a way it is a stand alone early parenting course. It is the most inclusive and balanced mother/father/baby film I have seen. This is rare because few actually get the true significance and importance of father's influence on the baby's gestation, birth and breastfeeding experience, as well as on the mother."
- Patrick Houser, Fathers-to-be (UK)
2 comments:
Love what you are doing with this film! I link to your blog from mine and would love for you to check it out. I feel it's so important to make birth empowering for fathers as well as mothers! http://www.womanofservice.com/
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nice post
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